A contemplation upon perception:
Have you ever just stopped to wonder why you do what you do?
Like really. WHY do you workout? Why did you get that new sew-in? How bout that new fade, WHY? Why do we make such efforts to "beautify" ourselves?
Don't get me wrong - there's absolutely nothing wrong with the aforementioned activities(or activities of the same nature), my question is why? Well, I've thought about it and guys, the result may shock you,
Just to show you guys I'm not being judgmental, I'll share my personal findings. After deep thought I realized, I wanted so badly to lose weight because I was no longer comfortable with people's perspective of my body not because I was actually uncomfortable with my body. I had become tired of hearing how I've gotten "big". I was even more tired of the people who kept asking if I had put on a little weight. Somebody even asked if I was pregnant once! I so desperately wanted my hair to grow simply because, most people prefer long hair and can only appreciate long hair. Many of the changes I was dying to make for myself were driven by other people's perceptions. But you know what the shocking part is? I'M NOT ALONE.
Crazy right? I mean, how could educated, "confident" young people want to change themselves to suit others? Because, the sad truth is ... many of us aren't who we think we are. I, for one, have always viewed myself as strong and independent. I genuinely thought my opinion of me, was my opinion of me. Except it wasn't.
So, how do we fix this? Through self-love. Tell yourself you're beautiful. Tell yourself that every curve, flab, blotch, and all other "imperfections" you posses are what make you absolutely exquisite. Stop viewing them as imperfections. And if you genuinely are uncomfortable with anything on your body: (1) Make sure YOU're the one who's uncomfortable with it (only your perception matters) (2) Do something about it - for YOU.
Folks, the bottom line is : in today's society, it is almost impossible to be truly comfortable with who you are. It doesn't matter how light-skinned(or dark-skinned), fat(or skinny), mean or nice you are because people will always find faults. But once you start loving you for you, and I mean really loving you for you, you'll see just how beautiful you are.
You are the beholder; beauty is in your eyes.
Yours Truly,
Ms. Unskinny ♥
13.10.14
10.9.14
Life and all its changes
Life, at best is short. Change, is painfully inevitable. These two variables (life and change) are ... constantly on my mind of late.
Let's start with life; make yours count.
It bothers me that any one person can be comfortable living a life of complacency- for at the complacent level, nothing is accomplished. Start doing things that count; things that matter. At the end of your tenure here on earth, do you really want to be that one person that everybody barely remembers? How will you change the world , or better yet your world? Are you impacting the people around you? We keep our circles small, and trust no-one, and focus on ourselves and so we end up lonely introverts. We die lonely introverts.... The sad truth is, we hurt nobody but ourselves by shutting ourselves off from the world. So I implore you, wake up and smell the roses and realize that the world is your playground. The universe is waiting on you to make an impact. And for us Christians, God is waiting on us to get out there on the battlefield. As Christians, we accomplish nothing by sitting back and watching the world decay. Christ lived his ENTIRE life making an impact on every single person he could and as his disciples we ought to mirror that. As Christians we cannot play the lukewarm role. Christ was truly radical, doing things that were totally unexpected and uncustomary and as his disciples we ought to mirror that. "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father which is in heaven" Matthew 5:16
Change now is what sucks. Change has the power to totally distort your whole perspective on everything - if you let it. Change can be a hard pill to swallow, but it must occur and so we must handle it well. Life will throw you punches but you. must. keep. fighting. Never give up. Never let 'negative' changes be your victor.
But most importantly, open your eyes. Open your eyes to all the positive changes. Open your eyes to the endless possibilities a change may bring about and grab at those opportunities.
TBH, this post may come off as just rambling, because that's exactly what it is. OR, if you look hard enough you may just get my point: Changes and life are both yours for the taking; take it and own it.
Let's start with life; make yours count.
It bothers me that any one person can be comfortable living a life of complacency- for at the complacent level, nothing is accomplished. Start doing things that count; things that matter. At the end of your tenure here on earth, do you really want to be that one person that everybody barely remembers? How will you change the world , or better yet your world? Are you impacting the people around you? We keep our circles small, and trust no-one, and focus on ourselves and so we end up lonely introverts. We die lonely introverts.... The sad truth is, we hurt nobody but ourselves by shutting ourselves off from the world. So I implore you, wake up and smell the roses and realize that the world is your playground. The universe is waiting on you to make an impact. And for us Christians, God is waiting on us to get out there on the battlefield. As Christians, we accomplish nothing by sitting back and watching the world decay. Christ lived his ENTIRE life making an impact on every single person he could and as his disciples we ought to mirror that. As Christians we cannot play the lukewarm role. Christ was truly radical, doing things that were totally unexpected and uncustomary and as his disciples we ought to mirror that. "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father which is in heaven" Matthew 5:16
Change now is what sucks. Change has the power to totally distort your whole perspective on everything - if you let it. Change can be a hard pill to swallow, but it must occur and so we must handle it well. Life will throw you punches but you. must. keep. fighting. Never give up. Never let 'negative' changes be your victor.
But most importantly, open your eyes. Open your eyes to all the positive changes. Open your eyes to the endless possibilities a change may bring about and grab at those opportunities.
TBH, this post may come off as just rambling, because that's exactly what it is. OR, if you look hard enough you may just get my point: Changes and life are both yours for the taking; take it and own it.
26.7.14
Elapsed Time
SO. It's been quite a while since I've made a post, but it's not because I've run out of things to talk about (if you know me any at all, you'll know that's impossible) ... its because of my growing lack of nothingness. And trust me this lack is as confusing and vague as it sounds.
Its like this: My actual will to care, to express, to help, to grow and to do just about any and everything is at an all time low. Now, in relation to life and all the many problems it brings ( and believe me, with problems - when it rains, it pours) that's fine; may even be considered as a 'coping mechanism'. But you see the way my Christianity is set up, apathy is a HUGE issue.
See, it may be okay to just not feel anything when you see the rampant increase of media attention homosexuals are getting but it is NOT okay to feel nothing about how these people will spend eternity. It's probably okay to just be chill when you see someone on the road coming from a dance at 7:00am on a Sunday, but it's still not okay to not care about how this person will spend eternity. I could go on and on but the point is ( and by George, I hope you've gotten it by now) as Christians we should be very concerned about the spiritual future of people. We have been called to a life of discipleship, to a life of soul winning, to a life of ministry, to a life which mirrors Christ. Apathy fits nowhere in the mold of the Christian life.
What does apathy have to do with Elapsed time? Well, on a personal note, I've wasted a month or two being apathetic and so my spiritual life was slowly becoming dormant. No daily devotions, no prayer, no seeking after Christ on a personal level. That time that has been wasted on feeling nothing and moping for nothing, cannot be regained and many windows of opportunity have passed me by.
However, as Christians we serve a gracious God and so new windows have opened and there's still time to seek after God's own heart and to yearn to be like him and to gain a passion for aiding in the conversion of non-Christians.
Its like this: My actual will to care, to express, to help, to grow and to do just about any and everything is at an all time low. Now, in relation to life and all the many problems it brings ( and believe me, with problems - when it rains, it pours) that's fine; may even be considered as a 'coping mechanism'. But you see the way my Christianity is set up, apathy is a HUGE issue.
See, it may be okay to just not feel anything when you see the rampant increase of media attention homosexuals are getting but it is NOT okay to feel nothing about how these people will spend eternity. It's probably okay to just be chill when you see someone on the road coming from a dance at 7:00am on a Sunday, but it's still not okay to not care about how this person will spend eternity. I could go on and on but the point is ( and by George, I hope you've gotten it by now) as Christians we should be very concerned about the spiritual future of people. We have been called to a life of discipleship, to a life of soul winning, to a life of ministry, to a life which mirrors Christ. Apathy fits nowhere in the mold of the Christian life.
What does apathy have to do with Elapsed time? Well, on a personal note, I've wasted a month or two being apathetic and so my spiritual life was slowly becoming dormant. No daily devotions, no prayer, no seeking after Christ on a personal level. That time that has been wasted on feeling nothing and moping for nothing, cannot be regained and many windows of opportunity have passed me by.
However, as Christians we serve a gracious God and so new windows have opened and there's still time to seek after God's own heart and to yearn to be like him and to gain a passion for aiding in the conversion of non-Christians.
19.5.14
Perplexed..
I'm completely stumped as to how we got to where we are today.
Well .. not completely. The last days are approaching.
Okay so yes yes, they've been approaching since probably 100 AD but that's my only explanation for this mass ... secularization that's taking place. Gambling on a Sunday, parties on a Sunday, unprotected sex before marriage in churches; clearly we're in a whole new state of religious decay.
But, how did we get here? The same way Adam got kicked out of the garden of Eden. Sin.
Sin leads us to question the rules/boundaries set by God, leads us to think that our will and way is higher than God's.
But enough of my Christian 'babble' which probably offends,disgusts or disinterests most of you.
I'm also terrified about the direction in which our world and our generation is headed.
.. Where do I even begin?
It's 'normal' to have your conversations seasoned with profanities. It's 'normal' to feed your soul with music which clearly promotes satanism or other extreme deviant thoughts. It's 'normal' to feast your eyes upon the downfall and mishaps of others (and also to delight in them). It's 'normal' and fun to spend days on gimmicks but 15 minutes on intellectual discussions. All in hopes of being .. different. But how different are you if instead of Vybz Kartel your favourite dancehall artiste is Alkaline? How different are you if instead of 5 "badwords" a sentence your limit is 1? The truth is not different at all.
It sucks that we're okay with wallowing in our state of nothingness; our state of purposeless existence. We are and will amount to nothing & it's chill cuz "the book ting neva did ah fi me from mawnin" or "christian ting deh too much fi me. Plus it boring".
Re-evaluate your life ... what are you living for? What will you be remembered for? Did you make your mark on the WORLD? Where will you spend eternity.. In the words of the rapper Swoope, "Well son do you wanna hear "Well done!" ? Or well son do you wanna be well done?"
Well .. not completely. The last days are approaching.
Okay so yes yes, they've been approaching since probably 100 AD but that's my only explanation for this mass ... secularization that's taking place. Gambling on a Sunday, parties on a Sunday, unprotected sex before marriage in churches; clearly we're in a whole new state of religious decay.
But, how did we get here? The same way Adam got kicked out of the garden of Eden. Sin.
Sin leads us to question the rules/boundaries set by God, leads us to think that our will and way is higher than God's.
But enough of my Christian 'babble' which probably offends,disgusts or disinterests most of you.
I'm also terrified about the direction in which our world and our generation is headed.
.. Where do I even begin?
It's 'normal' to have your conversations seasoned with profanities. It's 'normal' to feed your soul with music which clearly promotes satanism or other extreme deviant thoughts. It's 'normal' to feast your eyes upon the downfall and mishaps of others (and also to delight in them). It's 'normal' and fun to spend days on gimmicks but 15 minutes on intellectual discussions. All in hopes of being .. different. But how different are you if instead of Vybz Kartel your favourite dancehall artiste is Alkaline? How different are you if instead of 5 "badwords" a sentence your limit is 1? The truth is not different at all.
It sucks that we're okay with wallowing in our state of nothingness; our state of purposeless existence. We are and will amount to nothing & it's chill cuz "the book ting neva did ah fi me from mawnin" or "christian ting deh too much fi me. Plus it boring".
Re-evaluate your life ... what are you living for? What will you be remembered for? Did you make your mark on the WORLD? Where will you spend eternity.. In the words of the rapper Swoope, "Well son do you wanna hear "Well done!" ? Or well son do you wanna be well done?"
Wise up, rise up young people.
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