A contemplation upon perception:
Have you ever just stopped to wonder why you do what you do?
Like really. WHY do you workout? Why did you get that new sew-in? How bout that new fade, WHY? Why do we make such efforts to "beautify" ourselves?
Don't get me wrong - there's absolutely nothing wrong with the aforementioned activities(or activities of the same nature), my question is why? Well, I've thought about it and guys, the result may shock you,
Just to show you guys I'm not being judgmental, I'll share my personal findings. After deep thought I realized, I wanted so badly to lose weight because I was no longer comfortable with people's perspective of my body not because I was actually uncomfortable with my body. I had become tired of hearing how I've gotten "big". I was even more tired of the people who kept asking if I had put on a little weight. Somebody even asked if I was pregnant once! I so desperately wanted my hair to grow simply because, most people prefer long hair and can only appreciate long hair. Many of the changes I was dying to make for myself were driven by other people's perceptions. But you know what the shocking part is? I'M NOT ALONE.
Crazy right? I mean, how could educated, "confident" young people want to change themselves to suit others? Because, the sad truth is ... many of us aren't who we think we are. I, for one, have always viewed myself as strong and independent. I genuinely thought my opinion of me, was my opinion of me. Except it wasn't.
So, how do we fix this? Through self-love. Tell yourself you're beautiful. Tell yourself that every curve, flab, blotch, and all other "imperfections" you posses are what make you absolutely exquisite. Stop viewing them as imperfections. And if you genuinely are uncomfortable with anything on your body: (1) Make sure YOU're the one who's uncomfortable with it (only your perception matters) (2) Do something about it - for YOU.
Folks, the bottom line is : in today's society, it is almost impossible to be truly comfortable with who you are. It doesn't matter how light-skinned(or dark-skinned), fat(or skinny), mean or nice you are because people will always find faults. But once you start loving you for you, and I mean really loving you for you, you'll see just how beautiful you are.
You are the beholder; beauty is in your eyes.
Yours Truly,
Ms. Unskinny ♥
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